So I've decided to write about our ROM because the other day we were talking about the months leading up to the wedding and the wedding itself. And I've decided to write about the ROM just to remind me of what we went through.
I feel bad that I keep telling him that I didn't get my dream wedding and everything else that came with it. But, I can't help but feel that way.
OH WOW! I just realized that it's been a year since we've been legally married. Interesting!
When we were deciding on the date for our ROM, there were a few setbacks. Firstly, I wanted my mum to be there so it had to be a weekend because she works in Singapore. Secondly, we had very few weekends to choose from because his parents seem to have TONS of things going on weekends. In the end, we didn't manage to do it on the weekend because his parents were too busy. So, because I wanted my mum to be there, she had to take a day off work.
Instead of signing on 10/11/12, we signed on 9/11/12 instead but we asked the Pastor to put the official date on the certificate as 10/11/12
We had to be legally married way, way earlier which wasn't supposed to happen according to the Pastor who was our legal witness. He said that usually couples do it a week before their wedding day so that the date on the legal papers would be the same as the wedding day. But nope, not us. We had to do it earlier because we needed to be legally married in order for me to apply a spouse visa for him to come along with me to Melbourne.
Anyway, back to the ROM. During that time I was still working in World Vision. So I took the day off for the ROM. I had huge expectations for the ROM. Like huge! I guess having people constantly telling me that it's the best day of my life didn't help. People asked me what kind of flowers I was going to get or who did I get to do my makeup on that day. However, everything didn't turn out as dreamy as I imagined it to be. I thought everything would be perfect. We'll get to take loads of photos. But no....it turned out to be the worst day of my life (okay.... I'm being a tad bit dramatic here).
The weeks leading up to the ROM, his mum made a lot of requests and complains. Even the day before the ROM she asked whether it could be postponed to another day!! It's enough to say that there weren't many tear-less nights for me. Even the days leading up to the wedding were filled with tearful nights.
I never thought that planning a wedding. A supposed JOYFUL, HAPPY day could be filled with tears of frustration, anger, irritation, and disappointment instead of tears of joy.
Also, to make the day less awkward, my aunty and uncle decided to come along with us. Thank God because if it weren't for them, it would've definitely be EXTREMELY awkward! My aunty wanted to get me flowers but all I wanted was for the day to be over and done with.
I thought that day would be the end of the bad streak. The end of all sadness and we could move on to the more exciting stuff i.e. the wedding. But nope, more sadness was to come.
Hmmm, I wonder if every couple goes through this when they were planning their wedding. Or was it just me...?
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